I've struggled over the past few days to describe my feelings about therapy. I know I haven't expressed myself well, from the reaction I get from people.
They keep making points that I am not arguing with.
I guess I wasn't real sure what was my issue was either.
After chatting with a friend yesterday, I feel that maybe I can articulate this better. God I hope so.
I know I need help. I know I can't do this on my own. I know that I've been through a trauma. And I know that I have issues that pre-date that trauma. All of these are good reasons to talk to a professional.
But the thought of it sends me into a panic. It makes me angry and scared.
Here's why. If this is to work, I'm going to have to accept some things.
I'm going to have to accept that:
She left, she's gone and I'm alone and I'll never really understand why.
I was far from perfect and played a role in this failing.
I'm now a single dad and anything that happens around here is on me. Me only and no one else.
I have a responsibility to take care of myself.
I'm responsible for for my own happiness and no one else is.
I will have to deal with my own issues about self worth and cannot avoid that by transferring those issues to work, friends or family.
That I may be alone for some time.
That I may never have the kind of relationship that I've always coveted.
That this may just be as good as it gets.
It is amazing that I know all of these things, with out really accepting them.
And that is what scares me.
I hate those things. I resist accepting them on many levels. And if I don't want to miserable forever, I'm going to have to accept them.
And that is work.
Amazingly, a large part of me would be willing to be miserable just to avoid those truths.
But this is what I have to do.
And I am angry about it. I've worked hard over the years to make improvements to myself and my situation and yet here I am. The utter unfairness of it pisses me off. (In spite of my own opinions about fairness in general.)
So I'll make the call tomorrow.
And then... well I don't really know.
But I can't live like this any more. I can't stand the constant exhaustion, the feelings of despair, the fragility, any of it.
So I guess I need to accept some shit. And since i don't really know how to do that, I'm going to need some help.
And I'm scared.
1 comment:
What's that saying... the first step in getting help is admitting you have a problem. Go forth my friend, step lightly into those scary AF waters. You can do it!
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